My friend\u2019s relative just passed on and I am going to pay my respects at the wake. Could you advise me on the funeral etiquette that I should take note of when I am at the wake?<\/p>\n
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Attire \/ Dress Code<\/b><\/p>\n
Visitors to a wake should dress in simple pastel colours and avoid extremely bright colours. Never dress sloppily to a wake as it can be seen as a sign of disrespect to the deceased and the family of the deceased.<\/p>\n
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Conversation<\/b><\/p>\n
In approaching any conversation with the bereaving family, it is advisable to exercise caution and tact. For cases involving unnatural deaths, it is best to avoid comment or speculation so as not to add on further emotional pain to the bereaving family members. A hug or a comforting hand speaks louder than words. Don\u2019t worry too much about trying to find the most appropriate words. In such situations, words may be difficult to come by. Saying you don\u2019t know what to say will usually be more appreciated than clich\u00e9 statements.<\/p>\n
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Religious Sensitivities<\/b><\/p>\n
Inherent within a funeral wake are rituals and embedded traditions that may be in conflict with your religious beliefs and traditions. Visitors who do not share any close ties to the bereaved family are not obligated to participate or conform to the rituals and traditions during the funeral wake.<\/p>\n
At a Chinese funeral, you may be offered a red thread. As red is an auspicious colour for the Chinese, it is often a respectful gesture on the part of the bereaved family to have a red thread \/ a bucket of water with fresh flowers in it ready for its visitors as they do not want to inconvenience their visitors with the perceived possibility of \u201cbad luck\u201d that may be associated with the attendance of a funeral wake.<\/p>\n
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The Actual Visit<\/b><\/p>\n
It is best to first contact the bereaving family before paying a visit to the funeral wake. It is common to see individuals from different groups related to the deceased or their family members arriving at a funeral wake together. Keeping noise to a minimum especially after 10.30pm in the evenings is the responsible thing to do.<\/p>\n
Additionally, there is no hard and fast rule to young children and heavily pregnant women attending funeral wakes. While it may be a taboo to some, we neither encourage nor discourage them from attending a funeral wake. It is the individuals’ or parents (in the case of children) decision especially after serious consideration of their relationship with the deceased or bereaving family.<\/p>\n
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All in all, be respectful to the beloved and sincerely show care and concern to the bereaved family.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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