{"id":2415,"date":"2017-03-21T14:46:22","date_gmt":"2017-03-21T06:46:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/sofia.com.sg\/?p=2415"},"modified":"2025-06-20T16:55:13","modified_gmt":"2025-06-20T08:55:13","slug":"facing-unexpected-changes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/facing-unexpected-changes\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal With Unexpected Changes in Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1><strong>How to Deal With Unexpected Changes in Life<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>In life, unexpected changes are guaranteed to happen at some point.<\/p>\n<p>You might be let go from your job. You might leave a long-term relationship. Or you might receive bad news from the doctor. Whatever the circumstances are, adjusting to change can be difficult. Every change forces us out of our comfort zones temporarily, and in the face of unexpected change, we are often thrown off-guard.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s what you can do when you encounter unexpected changes in life.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><img decoding=\"async\" data-src=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Facing-Unexpected-Changes-Sadness.jpg\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2423 size-full lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" alt=\"Back view of lady with hat sitting along the shore\" width=\"750\" height=\"500\" \/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2423 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Facing-Unexpected-Changes-Sadness.jpg\" alt=\"Back view of lady with hat sitting along the shore\" width=\"750\" height=\"500\"><\/noscript><\/strong><\/h3>\n<h3><strong>01 | Recognise That It Is Temporary<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Expect to feel anxious, depressed or angry, but recognise that these intense feelings are only temporary.<\/p>\n<p>Any change, whether they are welcome or not, creates discomfort. When the change is both unwelcome and unexpected, the discomfort is even greater. Unexpected changes in life throws us out of our comfort zones. Facing unexpected change, it is normal that we experience intense negative emotions.<\/p>\n<p>In the state of sadness, disappointment and rage, it seems as if we will never be &#8216;okay&#8217; again. In fact, we question if we will ever feel better.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, we are all incredibly resilient. Research has shown that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bookdepository.com\/Stumbling-on-Happiness-Daniel-Gilbert\/9780007183135?a_aid=sophiag\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">people often overestimate the impact, intensity and duration<\/a> that both positive and negative events have on our lives. In a particular study, paraplegics were found to be equally happy as they were before one year after the accident. Similarly, lotto winners were found to be equally happy as they were before one year after winning the lottery.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>02 | Seek Out Support<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>When bad things happen, know that you are not alone &#8211; ever.<\/p>\n<p>There is no one person in the world who has cruised through his or her life without any help. Reaching out can help you to gain new perspectives, or even solutions to your problems.<\/p>\n<p>Research\u00a0has shown that difficult times are when social support is the most important. Positive social support <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC2921311\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">enhances resilience to stress<\/a>. It helps you to cope with unexpected changes in healthy, adaptive ways.<\/p>\n<p>Think about individuals in your family or social circle whom you can turn to. Is there anybody who has gone through what you are going through?<\/p>\n<p>In addition, seeking professional help can be a valuable resource for navigating unexpected life changes. By reaching out to experts, you can enhance your ability to cope and adapt effectively. Depending on the specific challenges you&#8217;re facing, there are various services available that can assist you, such as <a href=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/marriage-counselling-singapore\/\">marriage counselling<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/family-counselling-singapore\/\">family counselling<\/a> and more.<\/p>\n<p>These services provide a supportive environment where you can gain insight, develop strategies, and strengthen your relationships to overcome difficulties and thrive in the face of change.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" data-src=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Facing-Unexpected-Changes-Get-into-Action.jpg\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2424 size-full lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" alt=\"Lady stretching in sports wear\" width=\"750\" height=\"500\" \/><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2424 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/Facing-Unexpected-Changes-Get-into-Action.jpg\" alt=\"Lady stretching in sports wear\" width=\"750\" height=\"500\"><\/noscript><\/p>\n<h3><strong>03 | Get into Action<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>We cannot directly change how we feel, but we can change how we act.<\/p>\n<p>According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bookdepository.com\/Reality-Therapy-William-Glasser\/9780060904142?a_aid=sophiag\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">William Glasser<\/a>, all behaviour is made up of four components &#8211; Acting, Thinking, Feeling and Physiology. We have the most control over our actions, and the least control over our feelings and physiology.<\/p>\n<p>Using the analogy of a car, actions and thoughts are like the front wheels. It steers the direction in which the car moves in. Feelings and physiology are like the back wheels, following along in whichever direction the car moves.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to feel better,\u00a0the most effective way is to get into action.<\/p>\n<p>Follow through on the routines that you already have. If you usually hit the gym three times a week, don\u2019t stop. If you usually have a girl&#8217;s night out every Friday, don&#8217;t cancel on your girlfriends.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>04 | Make Meaning<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Change brings about new problems, but we often forget that it also brings about new opportunities.<\/p>\n<p>Being able to\u00a0find meaning in our challenges\u00a0allows us to own them. We challenge our ability to go where we have not gone before, and to do what we have not done before. In turn, this fosters courage, resilience, confidence and self-worth.<\/p>\n<p>Ask yourself: What can I learn from this? What do I know about myself that I have not known before? How can I turn this into something that will have a positive impact on my life one year, two years, or five years from now?<\/p>\n<p>Above all else, remember that you are not alone. If you are struggling with unexpected changes in your life and need additional support, our team of <a href=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/therapist-singapore\/\">professional counsellors and psychotherapists<\/a> is here to support you. Please feel free to <a href=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/sofia.com.sg\/contact\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">contact us<\/a> or to <a href=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/sofia.com.sg\/book-appointment\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">book an appointment<\/a> with our counsellors.<\/p>\n<p>Note: If you feel that life is not worth living and have made plans to end your life, <strong>seek help immediately:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) Hotline: 1800-221-4444<\/li>\n<li>Singapore Police Force: 999<\/li>\n<li>Singapore Civil Defence Force: 995<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n<section class=\"vc_cta3-container\"><div class=\"vc_general vc_do_cta3 vc_cta3 vc_cta3-style-classic vc_cta3-shape-square vc_cta3-align-left vc_cta3-color-white vc_cta3-icon-size-md vc_cta3-actions-bottom vc_custom_1581407740838\"><div class=\"vc_cta3_content-container\"><div class=\"vc_cta3-content\"><header class=\"vc_cta3-content-header\"><h2 style=\"color: #555555;font-family:Montserrat;font-weight:700;font-style:normal\" class=\"vc_custom_heading vc_do_custom_heading\" >Get In Touch With A Counsellor<\/h2><\/header><p>If you are experiencing unexpected changes in your life and need someone to speak to, contact our counsellors or book an appointment here.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"vc_cta3-actions\"><div class=\"vc_btn3-container vc_btn3-inline vc_do_btn\" ><a class=\"vc_general vc_btn3 vc_btn3-size-lg vc_btn3-shape-rounded vc_btn3-style-classic vc_btn3-color-pink\" href=\"https:\/\/glutenfreepleasure.com\/__proxy_domain\/www.sofia.com.sg\/book-appointment\/\" title=\"\">Book An Appointment<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/section>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p class=\"card-text\">How to Deal With Unexpected Changes in Life In life, unexpected changes are guaranteed to happen at some point. 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